In a two-parent home (and with divorced couples, too) it's common for each of you to have different strengths and challenges when it comes to parenting. For example, one of you may be volatile, while the other is more even-tempered. Or maybe your partner is consistent with discipline and you are the 'soft touch'.
Take advantage of each others' strengths.
If you are inconsistent and not effective at following through on consequences, hand it off to your partner. This is too important to let your ego get in the way. There is no shame. Think of it as a safety net of sorts for providing your kids with limits and growing responsibility.
Talk it over. Decide who will be the enforcer. If it's not you, take a back seat. Be more of an observer, and chime in to show your support.
Fern Weis is a Parent Coach and Family Recovery Life Coach. She works with parents of teens and young adults who are going through difficult situations, from the homework wars to addiction recovery, and all points in between. Fern helps parents release guilt, end enabling, and confidently prepare their children to thrive and be successful through life's challenges. FernWeis.com | 201-747-9642