I Know I'm Not Perfect, But... by Fern Weis, Parent + Family Recovery Coach
- 3 days ago
- 2 min read
I know I'm not perfect, but... If I had a dollar for every time a parent said that to me, well, I'd have some real spending money.
When you push yourself to be perfect (whatever that means), or even imply that you're not, you set yourself up to feel worse.
Perfection is impossible to define and impossible to achieve. Could we please ban the word?
Too many people are creating a negative mindset with that word. "I know I'm not perfect" says you're the opposite, and that it's a bad thing. No, it's not bad; it's human. It's normal.
Strive to do better tomorrow. Strive for 1% improvement.
Celebrate the 1%. Keep a list of your successes: what you said or didn't say, did or didn't do, the hug you gave or received, the pause you took.
Each one matters, and together they they represent growth.
Can you do that? Will you do that?
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Fern Weis is a certified life coach who learned that caring and good intentions are not enough in parenting. In fact, they are often the problem! Fern supports parents of teens and young adults who are going through difficult situations, including addiction recovery. She helps parents release guilt, end enabling and confidently prepare their children to thrive through life's challenges. Her articles are featured in Thrive Global, Medium, Motherly, The Teen Mentor, and Bergen County Moms.
Learn more about coaching and classes at www.fernweis.com. And then download your free guide, "Five Powerful Steps to Get Your Teen to Talk." For information on Family Recovery programs, visit www.familyrecoverypartners.com.