Mindset Shift: I Need To → I Get To + FREE Workshop to Get You There by Fern Weis, Parent + Family Recovery Coach

A goal is connected to an emotion. It’s great when the emotion is excitement; your brain will naturally want to move toward it.

However, if it feels like pressure — something you need to do or should do — instead of something you want to do, your brain will see it as a burden.

You’ll likely procrastinate and maybe give up.

Your brain gives you what you think most about: the good, the bad, and the ugly.

What if you stop using "need to, have to, and should" and replace them with "I get to?"

It sounds like an opportunity, doesn’t it?

A crack in the wall of avoidance.

An easing of resistance.

As with most of what I share, what works for you can work for your child.

Take in this message. Practice on yourself. Then offer “I get to” as an alternative to your child.

Be patient — with yourself and your child. It’s not as simple as knowing the strategy; it takes time and practice.

But… if you don’t even try, it definitely won’t work.

Decide to practice this technique, one day at a time, andone situation at a time.

Group Parenting Support

Jan 20 from 7:30pm to 8:30pm EST

Zoom

You’re invited to continue your growth at the January 20th GPS call. This month’s topic is letting go. It doesn’t feel so heavy when you realize what’s in it for your child: responsibility, independence, and confidence!

Register HERE

Fern Weis | Parent + Family Recovery Coach

Fern Weis is a certified life coach who learned that caring and good intentions are not enough in parenting. In fact, they are often the problem! Fern supports parents of teens and young adults who are going through difficult situations, including addiction recovery. She helps parents release guilt, end enabling and confidently prepare their children to thrive through life's challenges. Her articles are featured in Thrive Global, Medium, Motherly, The Teen Mentor, and Bergen County Moms.

Learn more about coaching and classes at www.fernweis.com. And then download your free guide, "Five Powerful Steps to Get Your Teen to Talk." For information on Family Recovery programs, visit www.familyrecoverypartners.com.