Do you need to be right? Are you easily triggered? Do you take the bait?
Dr. Wayne Dyer said, "Conflict cannot exist without your participation." He was right. You don't have to engage in every challenge or difference of opinion.
What happens outside of you is beyond your control; however, your response is all up to you. Given how easily our kids can push our buttons, be gentle with yourself. It will take time.
A calm response and the ability to disengage are possible. They are more effective than explanations, defensiveness and efforts to control what your kids say and do.
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Fern Weis is a certified life coach who learned that caring and good intentions are not enough in parenting. In fact, they are often the problem! Fern supports parents of teens and young adults who are going through difficult situations, including addiction recovery. She helps parents release guilt, end enabling and confidently prepare their children to thrive through life's challenges. Her articles are featured in Thrive Global, Medium, Motherly, The Teen Mentor, and Bergen County Moms.
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