Why Some Parents See Results – And Others Don’t by Fern Weis, Parent + Family Recovery Coach
- Bergen County Moms
- Oct 5
- 2 min read
There was a time when I coached just about anyone. I was new to parent coaching and wanted to spread my wings and help everyone.
This also gave me the opportunity to fine tune my fledgling skills, as well as generate some income.
And it worked... until it didn't.
It became painfully clear that I couldn't help everyone. Not because there was anything wrong with them. There wasn't.
They weren't ready to do this work.
That's not a flaw. It was the reality of their mindset and beliefs at that time.
My timeline was not their timeline. What seemed to them like a great opportunity for growth wasn't. At least not then. Not yet, we agreed.
Parent coaching requires you, the prospective client, to recognize that parenting is mostly about you. And you must be willing to learn, grow, and change how you show up in the relationship with your child.
That it's time for complaining about your child to wind down.
That you will focus on bringing out the best in your child... rather than trying to prevent the worst from happening.
Also understand that, unlike therapy, coaching emphasizes identifying specific areas for growth and improvement.
We do look at the past so you can see what you brought into parenting. Sometimes healing happens. And it's beautiful when it does.
Still, you come into the coaching partnership with certain goals to help you become a more effective parent. An empowered parent.
One whose child knows you are dependable, loving, and consistent.
One who gives your child what they need, not giving in or giving up because a situation feels too hard.
These are the parents I work with. These are the ones who are ready and get results.
I have two openings for 1:1 private coaching.
If this sounds like you, let's talk.
Fern Weis is a certified life coach who learned that caring and good intentions are not enough in parenting. In fact, they are often the problem! Fern supports parents of teens and young adults who are going through difficult situations, including addiction recovery. She helps parents release guilt, end enabling and confidently prepare their children to thrive through life's challenges. Her articles are featured in Thrive Global, Medium, Motherly, The Teen Mentor, and Bergen County Moms.
Learn more about coaching and classes at www.fernweis.com. And then download your free guide, "Five Powerful Steps to Get Your Teen to Talk." For information on Family Recovery programs, visit www.familyrecoverypartners.com.
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