Nobody’s Coming to Save You by Fern Weis, Parent + Family Recovery Coach
- Feb 25
- 2 min read
In this new year, I want to offer a simple, grounding reminder:
Nobody is coming to save you.
I know—that can sound harsh. Especially if life has been unfair, painful, or deeply disappointing.
In an ideal world, the people who hurt us would make things right. In the real world, that often doesn’t happen. And waiting for it can keep us stuck.
Here’s the part that matters most:
What others do or don’t do is beyond your control. Your healing is not.
Two thousand years ago, the Stoic philosophers taught that it’s not events themselves that cause our suffering, but the meaning we attach to them. In other words, peace doesn’t come from controlling life—it comes from learning where your power actually is.
This doesn’t mean pretending things didn’t hurt.
It means choosing not to live as a victim of what has already happened.
You still get to choose how you move forward.
You still get to choose how you think, respond, and live.
You have a superpower — the power of choice.
That choice—made one day at a time—is where your freedom begins.
I’m walking that road too. And I’m glad to walk it with you.
If you're feeling the loss of contact from your adult child, how you cope and continue to live your life is in your hands, too. You're invited to join our upcoming Parental Estrangement Support Group on Thursday, March 5 at 7:30pm ET.
You're not alone. Register HERE.
Fern Weis is a certified life coach who learned that caring and good intentions are not enough in parenting. In fact, they are often the problem! Fern supports parents of teens and young adults who are going through difficult situations, including addiction recovery. She helps parents release guilt, end enabling and confidently prepare their children to thrive through life's challenges. Her articles are featured in Thrive Global, Medium, Motherly, The Teen Mentor, and Bergen County Moms.
Learn more about coaching and classes at www.fernweis.com. And then download your free guide, "Five Powerful Steps to Get Your Teen to Talk." For information on Family Recovery programs, visit www.familyrecoverypartners.com.
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