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The First Mistake Doesn't Ruin You by Fern Weis, Parent + Family Recovery Coach

The First Mistake Doesn't Ruin You by Fern Weis, Parent + Family Recovery Coach, Bergen County Moms

"The first mistake is never the one that ruins you. It is the spiral of repeated mistakes that follows."

~ James Clear

It's another way of saying, "Time for a course correction." I connect this to the idea of failure. There's no such thing as failure unless you do nothing with what you've become aware of. When you knowingly do nothing to change, that is the biggest mistake of all. And then comes the downward spiral. What happens if you understand what's gone wrong but don't feel able to redirect? Ask for help, of course. Most of us now recognize that asking for help is a strength. Who are your go-to people when you're feeling stuck? Make a list and keep it on hand. There's always something that's not going according to plan. Whether it's a job, a business, your family, your house of worship... Be prepared to help yourself and others get unstuck.

Ready to ask for some help? Check out these resources.

Fern Weis is a certified life coach who learned that caring and good intentions are not enough in parenting. In fact, they are often the problem! Fern supports parents of teens and young adults who are going through difficult situations, including addiction recovery. She helps parents release guilt, end enabling and confidently prepare their children to thrive through life's challenges. Her articles are featured in Thrive Global, Medium, Motherly, The Teen Mentor, and Bergen County Moms.

Learn more about coaching and classes at And then download your free guide, "Five Powerful Steps to Get Your Teen to Talk." For information on Family Recovery programs, visit

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