Psychologists Specializing in Relationships, Intimacy, and Addiction by Dr. Konstantin Lukin, Ph.D.

Bergen County Moms
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Key Takeaway

You don’t need to know what kind of therapy you need—our psychologists help you figure that out. We specialize in relationships, intimacy concerns, emotional overwhelm, and addiction-related issues for individuals and couples. Lukin Center offers warm, evidence-based, judgment-free care across multiple NJ locations. Start with a simple conversation, and we’ll match you with the right psychologist for your situation.

When You’re Not Sure What Kind of Help You Need, We’re Here to Guide You

Something feels off. Maybe it’s your relationship. Maybe it’s your drinking. Maybe it’s stress, distance, arguments, or a lack of intimacy that’s slowly impacting the way you feel day to day.

You don’t have to diagnose yourself or know exactly what type of therapy you need. At Lukin Center, our psychologists help you sort through what’s going on and understand what support will actually help you feel better.

Across our New Jersey locations, we offer compassionate, evidence-based care for individuals, couples, and families who want clarity, connection, and relief.

Common Reasons People Reach Out

Most people come to us without the “right” terminology. They come with real questions, like:

“We keep having the same fight.”
“I’m stressed, overwhelmed, or shutting down.”
“I’m drinking more than I want to.”
“Intimacy feels uncomfortable or disconnected.”
“My partner’s substance use is affecting us.”
“I don’t recognize myself lately.”
“I want help but don’t know where to start.”

If any of this feels familiar, you’re in the right place.

Relationship & Addiction Specialists Under One Roof

Our psychologists support people navigating a wide range of challenges:

Relationship & Couples Concerns

Communication issues
Trust, connection, and emotional distance
Intimacy challenges or decreased desire
Sex therapy concerns
Infidelity, conflict patterns, or recurring arguments
Growing apart due to stress, parenting, or career pressures

Learn more about couples counseling

Addiction & Substance Use Concerns

Drinking or drug use that’s starting to worry you
Feeling out of control
Navigating a partner’s substance use
Emotional turbulence tied to addiction
Stress or anxiety driving unhealthy coping
Relationship conflicts caused by substance use

Learn more about substance abuse treatment

Men’s & Women’s Emotional Well-Being

Many clients seek help for anger, shutdown responses, burnout, anxiety, people-pleasing, boundaries, leaving toxic cycles, identity concerns, confidence issues, self-worth challenges, and the pressures of parenting, partnership, and career.

Individual Therapy for Emotional Clarity

You may feel overwhelmed, disconnected, stuck in patterns you want to break, or unsure why you feel so irritable, sad, or anxious. Therapy helps you understand the root of your emotions and create change that lasts.

Learn more about individual therapy

What It’s Like to Work With a Lukin Center Psychologist

You don’t need to prepare anything, present perfectly, or have the “correct” story. We meet you exactly where you are.

Our psychologists use a warm, supportive, conversational style—grounded in evidence-based methods like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), mindfulness, emotion-focused work, and Gottman-informed relationship therapy.

But most importantly, we help you feel understood and supported.

How We Help You Figure Out the Right Type of Therapy

We start with a simple conversation.

Step 1: Tell us what’s going on

Anything you’re comfortable sharing is enough.

Step 2: We help identify what’s underneath

Patterns, emotions, stressors, interaction cycles, and coping habits.

Step 3: We match you with the clinician who fits best

Relationship-focused? Intimacy-focused?

Addiction-informed? Individual? Couples? We guide that decision for you.

Step 4: Begin therapy at your pace

In-person or telehealth across multiple NJ offices.

Our New Jersey Locations

What You Should Know About Our Locations:

Most clients come in unsure of what they need. You don’t need the right terminology—just a starting point. We treat both relationship challenges and addiction-related concerns, including intimacy issues, communication problems, and stress-related drinking. You’ll be matched with a psychologist based on your goals, comfort level, and schedule.

We offer specialized care for couples, individuals, men, and women, plus support for intimacy and sex therapy concerns. Multiple NJ locations provide in-person and virtual options with judgment-free, evidence-based therapy.

Hoboken

Our Hoboken psychologists provide warm, evidence-based care for relationship challenges, intimacy concerns, addiction, and emotional wellness. Convenient for residents near downtown, the waterfront, and the PATH station.

Jersey City

Our Jersey City office supports diverse individuals and couples navigating stress, conflict, addiction concerns, and communication issues—serving Journal Square, Hamilton Park, downtown, and surrounding neighborhoods.

Englewood

Psychologists in our Englewood location help individuals, couples, and families navigate substance use, emotional overwhelm, and relationship strain, offering accessible care to Bergen County.

Ridgewood

In Ridgewood, we provide a calm, private space for couples and individuals seeking support for intimacy issues, emotional stress, drinking concerns, or recurring relationship patterns.

Montclair

Our Montclair psychologists specialize in relationship repair, intimacy therapy, emotional health, and addiction support—serving residents throughout Essex County.

Chatham

Chatham clients receive compassionate, insight-oriented therapy for relationship problems, stress, substance use concerns, and individual emotional challenges.

Westfield

Our Westfield office offers evidence-based therapy for individuals and couples navigating communication issues, intimacy barriers, emotional overwhelm, and concerns around alcohol or substance use.

View all locations

When Relationship Issues & Addiction Intersect

Many people come in saying:

“We’re arguing more.”
“My drinking is affecting us.”
“I don’t want this to get worse.”

Relationship strain and substance use often grow together. We support both—without judgment.

Our psychologists help you repair communication, rebuild safety, and make healthier choices that support you and your relationship.

Why People Choose Lukin Center

Specialized psychologists for both relationships and addiction-related concerns
Warm, private, judgment-free spaces
Evidence-based approaches tailored to your goals
Flexible scheduling across multiple New Jersey offices
Support for individuals, couples, parents, and families

When life feels overwhelming or uncertain, you deserve a place that helps you make sense of it all.

Get Started Today

You don’t have to know exactly what you’re asking for. Just tell us what’s going on—we’ll help with the rest.

Call us at (201) 862-7871 or request an appointment online today.

Frequently Asked Questions

Do I need to know what type of therapy I need before calling?

No. Most people aren’t sure what they need when they first reach out. We help you identify the right approach during your initial conversation with Dr. Lukin.

Can you help with both relationship issues and substance use concerns?

Yes. Many of our psychologists specialize in the intersection of relationship challenges and addiction-related issues, providing comprehensive support for individuals and couples.

Do you offer therapy for intimacy and sex therapy concerns?

Yes. Our psychologists provide compassionate, evidence-based support for intimacy challenges, sexual concerns, and relationship dynamics in a judgment-free environment.

What if my partner isn’t ready for couples therapy?

Individual therapy can still help. Many people start with individual sessions to gain clarity and develop healthier patterns, which often positively impacts their relationships.

Do you accept insurance?

We work with most major insurance providers. Contact our office at (201) 862-7871 to verify your specific coverage, or visit our insurance information page.

Can I do therapy online instead of in-person?

Yes. We offer secure telehealth services for clients throughout New Jersey who prefer virtual sessions or need flexible scheduling.

Ready to take the first step?

Call (201) 862-7871 or contact us online to get started.

Our dedicated team offers comprehensive services across Northern New Jersey, including Chatham, Englewood, Hoboken, Jersey City, Montclair, Ridgewood, and Westfield. Speak with someone today at 201-862-7871 to find your ideal therapist.

Konstantin Lukin, Ph.D | Lukin Center Psychotherapy

Konstantin Lukin, Ph.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist, author, speaker, and researcher specializing in men’s issues, couple’s counseling, and obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). He is the Director and Co-Founder of the Lukin Center, northern New Jersey’s premiere evidence-based psychotherapy practice. The Lukin Center emphasizes evidence-based treatments such as emotion-focused therapy for couples, and cognitive and dialectical behavioral therapies for children, adolescents, and adults. Since its inception, the Lukin Center has grown to include testing and assessment as well as medication management services. As a therapist, Dr. Lukin focuses on providing support and practical feedback to help clients effectively address personal life challenges. He integrates complementary modalities and techniques – including cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), schema-focused therapy, and emotion-focused therapy (EFT) – to offer a personalized approach tailored to each client. With compassion and understanding, he works with his clients to help them build on their strengths and attain the personal growth to which they are committed. Dr. Lukin has extensive experience in private practice, conducting outpatient therapy with children, adolescents, and adults. He also has extensive clinical and research experience with people of all ages and their families, including those diagnosed as severely and persistently mentally ill, in both inpatient and outpatient settings. He has co-led groups for children, adolescents, and adults diagnosed with OCD in an outpatient setting. He is trained and experienced in administering a variety of psychological test batteries including neuropsychological, cognitive, and personality assessments, and he has conducted diagnostic and intake interviews and prepared evaluation reports. Dr. Lukin is a graduate of the Honors College at SUNY at Stony Brook, and earned his doctorate from Fairleigh Dickinson University.