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LOVE = Let Others Voluntarily Evolve by Fern Weis, Parent + Family Recovery Coach

LOVE = Let Others Voluntarily Evolve by Fern Weis, Parent + Family Recovery Coach, Bergen County Moms

In which ways do you allow your teen to explore and grow? This is something to work on ASAP.

I remember times when I got involved in things that were none of my business or insisted my way was best. Have you ever?

It helped me avoid that feeling of powerlessness. But it wasn’t good for my teen. Follow these tips to get through it.

Is your involvement necessary? If not… - Take a breath and pause.

- Express confidence that your teen can handle it.

- Be available for support, if they ask.

- Share that you’re working on letting go and letting them live their life.

- Smile and get on with your day.

It’s normal that you want to spare them disappointment and mistakes, and it’s important to let them experience it.

That won’t always be the result, but your job is to prepare them for the world out there. They need time to practice while they’re still with you. That’s true love.

Need help preparing your kids for life?

Click HERE to get practical tips and monthly live support at RAISING TEENAGERS: Where Parents Learn How to Talk to Their Teens membership.

Fern Weis is a certified life coach who learned that caring and good intentions are not enough in parenting. In fact, they are often the problem! Fern supports parents of teens and young adults who are going through difficult situations, including addiction recovery. She helps parents release guilt, end enabling and confidently prepare their children to thrive through life's challenges. Her articles are featured in Thrive Global, Medium, Motherly, The Teen Mentor, and Bergen County Moms.

Learn more about coaching and classes at And then download your free guide, "Five Powerful Steps to Get Your Teen to Talk." For information on Family Recovery programs, visit

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