How To Have An Honest Conversation With Yourself by Randi Levin, CPC, Life Transition Coach

Updated: Nov 19, 2018



Do you ever feel like you are speaking yet not really being heard? We compete with so many things in our everyday lives. Technology, busy schedules, lots of multi-tasking to name a few! As it becomes harder to be heard and to engage in viable “audible and spoken” conversations with others it also becomes harder to authentically connect to our own inner voices. Having an honest conversation means being vulnerable. It entails letting down our guard just long enough to listen to our lives and to understand our place within the Universe.

Ready to have that heart-to-heart with yourself? Here is how to start talking…

  • Bond With Nature: Go for a walk, hike in the woods, collect leaves, shovel snow, go to the beach, plant flowers or lay be the pool. Why? In these moments we are still and at one with the Universe. Our inner voices become louder and the chatter around us lowers. The result? New perspectives, a sense of calm and a better understanding of next steps…

  • Be Curious: If we don’t ask questions we don’t seek solutions. Being curious allows us to test out our thoughts, to imagine the possibilities and to explore and play with ideas.

  • Turn Inward: There is a place inside all of us where everything seems possible. Find that and you reconnect to your soul, to your Forgotten Woman or Man, and to your intuition.

  • Meet You Where You Are: We know ourselves longer than we know anybody else! That is one reason why we often scan the entire timeline of our lives and respond and react to our day-to-day from the past or the future, but not in the now. Be in the now. When we get to know and understand who we are today in real time we lose some of the story telling in favor of honesty. We lose expectation and replace it with understanding our own growth and development.

  • Celebrate The Fails: What does not work teaches. The fails create our differences, define our reasoning and redefine our successes. Success is a beautiful thing, but ugly makes for better conversation! Ugly is the stuff of which best selling books and screenplays are born. Without set back, there is no complete understanding or deep meaning to our stories or to our conversations.

  • Take The Meeting: In other words, make time to chat with yourself. Pencil in an appointment with yourself. Meditate, take yoga, read, listen to music, journal and let your essence come to the top. Busy listening to the advice of other people? How empowering would it be to listen to your gut? You are the CEO of your own life. Start with an open conversation with yourself.

Not comfortable talking to yourself? No worries…start a journal or a motivational wall. Write down your inner most thoughts. Document your own progress report. Begin the process of renewal one page and one day at a time.


Randi Levin, CPC, founder & CEO, Randi Levin Coaching – is a nationally recognized transitional life strategist, Fortune 500 keynote, author, and reinvention expert. Randi Levin Coaching supports women in becoming legends in their own lives! Legacy is a mindset and a muscle that when flexed can become a power tool for change and redirection in the current moment. Randi is a catalyst toward a shift in perspectives in regard to fear, growth, purpose and overall success—all key elements of her Signature GPS Coaching System. Randi Levin Coaching is widely quoted and featured in top media outlets. She is a featured expert for Thrive Global, DivorceForce, The Three Tomatoes, Women for One, and Better After 50. Her workshops have been featured in The Wall Street Journal and you may have seen her in HuffPost, Reader’s Digest, Business Insider, American Express OPEN Forum, and Working Mother Magazine. She is regularly a guest on top podcasts and radio shows. Randi is a contributing author in the anthology series Get RESULTS!

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