4 Steps to Reframe Athletic Setbacks and Bounce Back by Stephen Neer, MS, LPC

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In the performance world, it’s not about avoiding setbacks; it’s about dealing with them. Nobody wants to have an injury or backtrack to correct a mistake that was made. However, having a structure and tools to learn how to reframe athletic setbacks could be the game-changer you’re missing. Follow along with me as I take you on a practical journey of life’s ups and downs and help you come back stronger and better than ever.

Why Setbacks and Injuries Trigger Automatic Negative Thoughts

All performers come across a challenge on their way to their goals. Something unexpected happens, something was missed, or the dreaded injury occurred. These events impact you and everyone else on the team whether it be a sports team or a business team. Your automatic thought may be to catastrophize the event and take you out of the metaphorical “game” completely.

When a sudden injury or slump hits, it often disrupts an athlete’s routine, identity, and sense of control. Recognizing that these immediate reactions are natural cognitive responses is the first step toward building true athletic resilience.

Shifting from Comparison to a Growth Mindset in Sports

A growth mindset in sports recognizes setbacks as opportunities to learn and grow. By shifting the focus from failure to chances on improving, we can stimulate a positive adaptation as a performer.

It can be common for a competitive individual to compare themselves to others. Looking at your failure in comparison to another isn’t equitable. If it was, you would have to find a time the other was at their “lowest.”

Making an assumption that a singular event completely sums you up as a performer isn’t rational and discourages growth-related action.

4 Steps to Reframe Athletic Setbacks

When you encounter an obstacle during your season or training, implement these four structured steps to reset your mindset:

1. Recognize and Normalize Initial Negative Thoughts

Recognize it is normal to have negative thoughts and feelings at first. We cannot help what pops into your mind. It is the replacement thought that matters.

2. Zoom Out and Identify the Big Picture

Zoom out and identify the big picture. Ask yourself: “If everything went right from here on out, would I still be in a position to succeed?”

3. Identify a Resilience Role Model

Identify a role model in your space. Did they experience a setback, and how did they navigate it? Looking at elite athletes who built career milestones following major injuries can offer a realistic blueprint for recovery.

4. Perform a Cognitive Reframe

Reframe the thought that you are having. You are not lying to yourself; you are recognizing an alternative reality.

Initial Thought: “This injury is going to cost me everything I worked for.”
Reframed Thought: “Without this injury, I may not have identified my weaknesses as an athlete and not spent enough time to address them. I will be better for this in the long run.”

Considering Elevating Your Mental Performance? How Lukin Center Can Help

At Lukin Center, our specialists provide evidence-based sport psychology, mental performance training, and therapy tailored for athletes, coaches, and high performers. Whether you want to gain a competitive edge or overcome emotional roadblocks, we offer two distinct pathways to support your goals:

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Stephen Neer, MS, LPC | Lukin Center, Bergen County Moms — Stephen Neer, MS, LPC | Lukin Center

Stephen Neer, MS, LPC, is a psychotherapist and co-director of the Sports Performance Department at Lukin Center for Psychotherapy, who specializes in treating children, adolescents, and young adults experiencing sports performance difficulties, anxiety, depression, attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), and psychosocial and relational issues. He also has extensive knowledge of the autism spectrum.

Stephen’s use of the therapeutic alliance encourages an open, trusting relationship, and his theoretical approach incorporates the use of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), behavioral therapy, and person-centered therapy. His objective is to assist clients in recognizing their life goals, and to help them apply rational thinking to overcome the obstacles blocking them from those goals. He is trained in nutritional approaches, and incorporates them into his practice as well.

Throughout his graduate studies, Stephen served as the director of a therapeutic summer day camp for individuals in need of social skills development and support. He has extensive knowledge of the autism spectrum, and has provided individual, group, and family therapy services at an outpatient setting for clients with autism. Stephen has a background in competitive sports and utilizes therapeutic approaches to assist individuals with sports performance anxiety, self-talk and the support system of the athlete including parents and coaches. Stephen earned his bachelor’s degree in psychology and master’s degree in mental health counseling from Marist College.