Who checks grades on the school portal, you or your student? Maybe it's both of you? Many parents tell me they regularly check grades and assignments online, and then complain to the kids to get their act together.
STOP! Nagging doesn’t change anything for the better. It erodes your relationship and takes away any motivation to do the work.
The problem is that you care more than your child! Time to get them involved in checking their work. Even if you have to sit with them, it’s their job to see what’s going on.
This is the first step to taking responsibility for themselves. You can’t do this kind of thing indefinitely, nor should you. With the first marking period well under way, this is the perfect time for you to put this in place.
When you step back, they learn to step up. Let me know how it goes.
Fern Weis is a certified life coach who learned that caring and good intentions are not enough in parenting. In fact, they are often the problem! Fern supports parents of teens and young adults who are going through difficult situations, including addiction recovery. She helps parents release guilt, end enabling and confidently prepare their children to thrive through life's challenges. Her articles are featured in Thrive Global, Medium, Motherly, The Teen Mentor, and Bergen County Moms.
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