When Someone You Love Gets Sick, Everything Changes
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By Dr. Karen Hart
One of the more common conversations I have with new patients begins with something like this: “My mother was diagnosed with breast cancer last year, and it made me want to be more on top of my own health.”
Sometimes it's a parent, sometimes a sibling or a close friend. The impulse is understandable: A health event affecting someone close to us has a way of making us want clarity on our own health picture.
In my experience, this is a genuinely useful starting point for a different relationship with your healthcare. People who come in because something has prompted them to pay closer attention tend to be more engaged. They ask thoughtful questions, they’re interested in understanding their own picture, and they’re more likely to follow through on further testing and evaluation. That engagement makes a real difference in the quality of care we can achieve.
What I've noticed, particularly with women, is that this shift often comes alongside another recognition: that they have been quite attentive to the health of everyone around them while their own care has moved quietly to the back of the queue. The coordination, the research, the advocacy gets directed outward, and the annual physical gets rescheduled one more time.
This comes at a cost. Many of the things that matter most in long-term health, including cardiovascular markers, metabolic trends, bone density, and hormonal transitions, are better managed with early attention and reliable longitudinal data. Putting them off makes for an incomplete picture, which can make it harder for you and your physician to make the right decisions over time.
A doctor who has followed you for several years brings something a single visit can't replicate: context. She knows what your labs looked like three years ago. She knows your family history as a real conversation you've had, not a form you filled out in a waiting room. She knows what's normal for you, which makes it easier to notice when something has shifted. That kind of continuity is valuable and increasingly rare. It’s worth building before you urgently need it.
At Harley Street Medical, the relationship is central to how we practice. Our physicians see a limited number of patients and have the time to develop continuity; we know our patients well enough that care can be genuinely proactive.
If a change in your family has prompted you to think more carefully about your own health, that's a reasonable instinct to follow. The same thoughtfulness you'd bring to any other meaningful investment in your life applies here. Establishing a real relationship with a physician who knows you well is one of the more practical things you can do for your long-term health. The right time to do it is before you need it most.
Dr. Karen Hart is a physician at Harley Street Medical in Ho-Ho-Kus, NJ, specializing in personalized, preventive internal medicine. She joins HSM from the Valley Medical Group/Prospect Medical offices, having been named a Top Doctor by Castle Connolly and a Top Internist in Bergen County by Bergen County Magazine every year since 2017.
If you’d like to learn more about concierge medicine or Harley Street Medical, please email inquiries@harleystreetmed.com, call (551) 284-4044, or visit our website at www.harleystreetmed.com/nj.
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