If you want a loving connection with your teen, there must be times you’re not in fix-it mode. Worry needs to take a back seat. You’re trying to understand, not to fix or punish, to see your child as a human being who stumbles. And stumbling is okay. It’s human and normal. Tell your teen it’s a no-consequences conversation. That will ease their expectation that they’re in trouble and you’re out to get them. Listen to understand. Validate the struggle. Let your child feel safe with you.
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Fern Weis is a certified life coach who learned that caring and good intentions are not enough in parenting. In fact, they are often the problem! Fern supports parents of teens and young adults who are going through difficult situations, including addiction recovery. She helps parents release guilt, end enabling and confidently prepare their children to thrive through life's challenges. Her articles are featured in Thrive Global, Medium, Motherly, The Teen Mentor, and Bergen County Moms.
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