Paying for your kids' adventures can be pretty pricey. Is it necessary? Is it worth it? Is it breaking the bank?
When you and I were kids, we created our own adventures: pretend play, climbing trees, riding bikes around the neighborhood, popping into our friends' houses or apartments. We spoke to people face-to-face, used our imagination, and weren't over scheduled.
Many kids have flown (or sailed) to vacation destinations multiple times by the age of 12. Some are involved in a multitude of activities. They have a collection of electronic and computer devices. And you are paying for all of it!
Consider the following:
* Are you working harder than you'd like just to keep up? * What are you compromising to do it? * List the benefits of providing all of this for your kids. * What are your children missing out on? What are you missing out on? * What are your children learning?
You might not be comfortable with the answers, but maybe it’s time to shake things up and get back to basics. As always, the choice is yours.
Fern Weis is a certified life coach who learned that caring and good intentions are not enough in parenting. In fact, they are often the problem! Fern supports parents of teens and young adults who are going through difficult situations, including addiction recovery. She helps parents release guilt, end enabling and confidently prepare their children to thrive through life's challenges. Her articles are featured in Thrive Global, Medium, Motherly, The Teen Mentor, and Bergen County Moms. Â
Learn more about coaching and classes at www.fernweis.com. And then download your free guide, "Five Powerful Steps to Get Your Teen to Talk." For information on Family Recovery programs, visit www.familyrecoverypartners.com.