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MINDSET: My Word for the Year by Fern Weis, Parent + Family Recovery Coach

MINDSET: My Word for the Year by Fern Weis, Parent + Family Recovery Coach, Bergen County Moms

Mindset. It’s the key to everything. For a good part of my life I had strong beliefs, limiting beliefs, about myself, life and my place in the world. This mindset held me back in personal growth, relationships and work.

Sounds pretty depressing, doesn’t it? It certainly kept me confused and insecure. It may sound ridiculous to some of you, but I didn’t know I could think another way. I thought everyone felt and reacted the way I did. But they don’t. I’ve been fortunate to experience some ‘awakenings’ over the past two decades; people and programs who gently showed me another way. But it shakes up your world. It’s challenging to consider a new outlook after believing the negative programming for so long. Have you heard the expression, “Your thoughts create your reality”? It turns out it’s true, scientifically proven. Your thoughts and mindset are established by the age of seven. After that, you’re learning new information, but that early programming is running your life. Don’t worry, it’s not hopeless. While the brain may be running the show, it can learn. With your help, it can reprogram itself. Listen to Dr. Bruce Lipton, a neuroscientist. He explains it in language anyone can understand, and in an interesting way, too. You can watch it here. This is the way forward. Yes, it’s challenging. And the possibility for being more satisfied and optimistic, and having a positive impact on those around you is real.

In 2023, you’ll see more from me on MINDSET – in posts, the FB group, and programs. Come on this journey with me and be the change.

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Fern Weis is a certified life coach who learned that caring and good intentions are not enough in parenting. In fact, they are often the problem! Fern supports parents of teens and young adults who are going through difficult situations, including addiction recovery. She helps parents release guilt, end enabling and confidently prepare their children to thrive through life's challenges. Her articles are featured in Thrive Global, Medium, Motherly, The Teen Mentor, and Bergen County Moms.

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