Are you the deer in the headlights when your child tells you what a bad parent you are? With all your love and good intentions, it's difficult not to take it personally. But let's see it for what it really is - a distraction. What your teen says is meant to make you feel bad so you'll back off or give them what they want. It's not about you. End of story. Stay focused and calm. Do not be distracted, do not engage. Do not defend, explain or justify. That is all.
Fern Weis is a certified life coach who learned that caring and good intentions are not enough in parenting. In fact, they are often the problem! Fern supports parents of teens and young adults who are going through difficult situations, including addiction recovery. She helps parents release guilt, end enabling and confidently prepare their children to thrive through life's challenges. Her articles are featured in Thrive Global, Medium, Motherly, The Teen Mentor, and Bergen County Moms.
Learn more about coaching and classes at www.fernweis.com. And then download your free guide, "Five Powerful Steps to Get Your Teen to Talk." For information on Family Recovery programs, visit www.familyrecoverypartners.com.