There are times when it's best to keep your thoughts to yourself, and no, you don't have to smile.
If you want to speak because you need to be right; you feel attacked; you feel the need to control... don't speak.
I've gotten much better at this. But I do remember times when I felt I had to defend myself. It kept an unproductive discussion (argument, really) going longer and going nowhere.
There are some things that don't need to be said out loud.
When emotions are running high it's best to be quiet and listen. Find a calm moment later on to thoughtfully share what's on your mind.
* Keep it about you instead of pointing fingers.
* Stick to the facts as much as possible.
* Avoid reacting with big feelings.
You've got this.
P.S. - There's more support at the "Raising Teenagers: Where Parents Learn How to Talk to Their Teens" membership.
Fern Weis is a certified life coach who learned that caring and good intentions are not enough in parenting. In fact, they are often the problem! Fern supports parents of teens and young adults who are going through difficult situations, including addiction recovery. She helps parents release guilt, end enabling and confidently prepare their children to thrive through life's challenges. Her articles are featured in Thrive Global, Medium, Motherly, The Teen Mentor, and Bergen County Moms.
Learn more about coaching and classes at www.fernweis.com. And then download your free guide, "Five Powerful Steps to Get Your Teen to Talk." For information on Family Recovery programs, visit www.familyrecoverypartners.com.