Yesterday I shared my epiphany moment, my wake-up call as a parent. I couldn't go back.
I had to go down into the muddy trenches, dig deep into myself, and learn a new way to be. For me, my child, my family. And I never looked back.
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What did I learn?
* to step back, stop enabling and let my kids take more responsibility for themselves.
* to be less emotional (or to just take a break). They learned I would stay on topic and not be distracted from the issue at hand
* to really listen to them. They began to trust me with their feelings. There was less nagging and fewer battles for control. This led to a better relationship and more cooperation
* to accept that my dreams for them weren't always in their best interest. They learned to discover their purpose and potential.
* to understand that boundaries were more important than feeling loved. They became more independent, and still felt loved.
* Most important of all, I learned that the only one I can change is me.
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Truthfully, it's not always smooth sailing. There's always going to be someone or something to push my buttons. That's the nature of life.
With self-awareness and a boatload of new skills I was able to make changes in me. I'm grateful to be a different person than I was back then.
As awful as our experience was, I am grateful. And now it's time to share the transformation with you.
What's next?
There are no limits for me, or for you. And here's where you begin.
I created the membership, "Raising Teenagers: Where Parents Learn How to Talk to Their Teens" to give all parents the best chance for family happiness and harmony.
You can do this:
- without breaking the bank
- at your convenience
- in small chunks of time
- with live support at the Q&A
- and with a community that gets you (our private FB group
As a founding member, I'm gifting you with a 35% discount.
Instead of the regular price of $29/month, join at $19/month. Your investment will not change as long as you are a member!
This offer is good until midnight on Friday, January 28. After that your investment goes up to $29/month. You can do this. I have confidence in you. Join now.
Fern Weis is a certified life coach who learned that caring and good intentions are not enough in parenting. In fact, they are often the problem! Fern supports parents of teens and young adults who are going through difficult situations, including addiction recovery. She helps parents release guilt, end enabling and confidently prepare their children to thrive through life's challenges. Her articles are featured in Thrive Global, Medium, Motherly, The Teen Mentor, and Bergen County Moms.
Learn more about coaching and classes at www.fernweis.com. And then download your free guide, "Five Powerful Steps to Get Your Teen to Talk." For information on Family Recovery programs, visit www.familyrecoverypartners.com.
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