Does this hit home for you? If you jump in too quickly, you deprive your children of chances to find their grit, creativity and confidence. In essence, you may be crippling them. I know that sounds harsh, because you only want to help your kids. I was an expert at that. It was painful to watch my child struggling. The problem was sometimes I got involved in something that was not of my making or my responsibility. Years later, he told me that when I was the fixer, he got the message that mom had to get involved because he wasn’t capable of handling the problem himself. Oh, the mess I made with the best of intentions. It’s true. Good intentions do not help them grow up. Their bodies will grow, but their emotional growth is stunted. There will be tantrums and dependence. I know you don't want that for your child. You want them go into their future as strong, capable people. How do you begin to let go and let your kids figure it out? Take a look at my new membership, RAISING TEENAGERS: Where Parents Learn How to Talk to Their Teens.
This could be just the place to start.
Fern Weis is a certified life coach who learned that caring and good intentions are not enough in parenting. In fact, they are often the problem! Fern supports parents of teens and young adults who are going through difficult situations, including addiction recovery. She helps parents release guilt, end enabling and confidently prepare their children to thrive through life's challenges. Her articles are featured in Thrive Global, Medium, Motherly, The Teen Mentor, and Bergen County Moms.
Learn more about coaching and classes at www.fernweis.com. And then download your free guide, "Five Powerful Steps to Get Your Teen to Talk." For information on Family Recovery programs, visit www.familyrecoverypartners.com.