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Divorce, Remarriage and Their True Cost by Anita Srivastava

Updated: Apr 8, 2019

Divorce, Remarriage and Their True Cost, Bergen County Moms

Whether you're getting divorced, recovering from one or watching it unfold for a friend or family member, consider these steps for minimizing the financial consequences.

Take precautions

The single most effective divorce tool is a carefully drafted prenuptial agreement. Although entering a marriage with an exit strategy may seem calculating, many couples can benefit from having one. "A prenup is generally good insurance," says Arlene Dubin, a matrimonial attorney. She recommends not only spelling out what would happen to key assets like real estate and investment portfolios, but also outlining how to deal with debts incurred before and during the marriage.

Know what's at stake

The first financial shock to face is the cost of the divorce itself. You're already splitting assets; when you add a messy divorce with high legal fees, it becomes a considerable financial and emotional drain. It's vital to have someone on your side who has a handle on a financial exit strategy that meets your needs.

Start with a complete inventory to help you understand what you're entitled to receive or retain. Assets should include retirement plans, savings and checking accounts, properties and pensions, business interests, and inheritances. In addition, list any financial obligations or debts that you and your spouse may have incurred. You should document each item by gathering tax returns, paycheck stubs, wills, trust instruments, bank and credit card statements, insurance policies, property deeds, and brokerage account documents. Financial housekeeping is essential during a divorce, arming you with the knowledge needed to help make the right financial decisions.

Your fair share

Splitting the assets of your marriage will fall to the lawyers and the legal process. There are, however, tactical steps you can take to prepare. “I tend to recommend splitting what you have across all assets as opposed to a scenario where you take the house and I take the cash," Dubin says.

If neither of you has an emotional attachment to the family home, selling it could be preferable, says Bill Hunter, director, IRA Product Management at Bank of America Merrill Lynch. The proceeds can be split, used to pay down debt, or cover the cost of the divorce itself. A sale of other shared, nonliquid assets may also be advisable.

Another important asset is health insurance. If you're covered by your spouse's plan, under federal law you can continue that coverage for up to three years by enrolling in COBRA, although you'll be responsible for making the payments.

Retirement accounts

Splitting IRAs and 401(k)s can prove problematic. If either of you has a retirement account, it's vital that you sign a court-ordered qualified domestic relations order (QDRO), which spells out exactly what percentage of the account each of you will receive. This document allows you to roll over your agreed-upon share into another IRA without incurring early-withdrawal taxes, as long as you do so within 60 days of receipt of the QDRO.

Try to avoid tapping your retirement accounts to pay for the divorce. Instead, consider taking a loan at today's favorable interest rates.

Settlement aside

You need to update the beneficiaries in your will, as well as the person to whom you're granting a power of attorney should anything happen to you. Review all your estate planning documents to make sure they reflect your current wishes.

Be sure to follow up on any debt you may have incurred during the marriage. Although the responsibility to pay may fall to your ex-spouse, your name may still be tied to the account. This can have repercussions on your credit should he or she default on payment.

Social Security can also come into play. If you were married to your spouse for over ten years, you can claim spousal benefits even if your former partner remarries. But if you remarry, you can't claim the benefits unless your new marriage ends in death or divorce.

A new start

Once the divorce is finalized, the next chapter begins. Your financial advisor can help you review your financial outlook and create a budget based on your new circumstances. Start with what you spent over the past year and try to forecast your new situation as to what would be a realistic budget. Your goal in the end is to have a new financial strategy — one based on a new life chapter.

Article written by Stacy Allred, Director, Wealth Structuring Group at Bank of America Merrill Lynch

For more information, Anita Srivastava is a Wealth Advisor at Merrill Lynch in Glen Rock, NJ.

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