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How to Help Your Child Understand Their Feelings by Kristen Estrella, LCSW

Updated: May 13, 2021

How to Help Your Child Understand Their Feelings by Kristen Estrella, LC, Bergen County Moms

In My Heart” by Jo Witek speaks to all the feelings we have and helps normalize the ones we may sometimes wish we didn’t. This book is an excellent tool to help children understand the many feelings that live inside us, and how each one is part of the human experience. Most importantly, Jo Witek shows us with each new page how our feelings transform and change.

Therapy tip from our child/adolescent specialist Kristen Estrella, LCSW: This book is perfect to pair with a calm bottle!

You can have your child pick out the color of their heart, with the glue symbolizing how our feelings (despite how stuck they can make us feel) hold us together to make us who we are. The glitter represents the different feelings we have inside of us that they can name and assign to each glitter color as they sprinkle. As they shake the bottle they can talk about the particular feelings whirling around inside their heart and watch as their feelings eventually pass and settle just like it does in our bodies.

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Kristen Estrella, LCSW, a Psychotherapist at Lukin Center Psychotherapy, earned her B.A. in Psychology from American University and her Master of Social Work from Boston University. During Kristen's studies, she practiced Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) under the guidance of Daniel Beck, faculty member at the Beck Institute for CBT. Following graduate school, Kristen pursued her interest in working with children ages 0-7. Kristen's clinical expertise earned her national certifications in Child-Parent Psychotherapy and Parent-Child Interaction Therapy, two premier evidence-based practices that address difficulties between children and parents. She is also nationally certified in Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Kristen's specialization in infant and early childhood mental health led her to become the Child-Parent Psychotherapy supervisor across three children's programs in outpatient mental health.


Konstantin Lukin, Ph.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist in Ridgewood, Hoboken, Montclair Jersey City and Englewood. He has extensive clinical and research experience spanning individuals of all ages, in both inpatient and outpatient settings. He specializes in men’s issues, couple’s counseling, and relationship problems. His therapeutic approach focuses on providing support and practical feedback to help patients effectively address personal challenges. He integrates complementary modalities and techniques to offer a personalized approach tailored to each patient. He has been trained in cognitive-behavioral, dialectical behavior, schema-focused, and emotionally focused therapy, and has also been involved with research projects throughout his career, including two National Institute of Mental Health-funded studies. He is a member of the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies, New Jersey Psychological Association, Northeast Counties Association of Psychologists, New York State Psychological Association, The International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy, The New York Center for Emotionally Focused Therapy, the International OCD Foundation, the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science (ACSB) and a regular contributor to Psychology Today.

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