We plan and anticipate and dream. And when we finally become parents, we are stunned and speechless. Who knew love could happen this way and take over our entire being, instantly and completely? There's no substitute for the wonder and awe of the real thing. What if… we could look at the teen years with a little more wonder and a lot less fear? As a beginning instead of the end of the ‘easy’ part of parenting? What if… we could remember our own excitement (and fears) about being a teen? What if… we could have a conversation earlier with our child? Not just to prepare them for their changes, but to prepare them for our transition as well? Imagine… “Sweetheart, I see how you can’t wait to grow up. To be a teenager, to have new privileges and adventures. Me, too. I’m excited for you. I also know that it’s going to be a big change for me. Yes, you’ll always be ‘my baby’. Still, I know that how I talk to you and treat you needs to change, because you’re not a baby anymore.” Can you feel the fear easing and the wonder creeping in? This is connection. This is love. P.S. I love to help parents prepare for the teen years, instead of making it up as you go. Contact me to schedule your complimentary consultation at fern@fernweis.com or join my private FB group HERE.
Fern Weis is a certified life coach who learned that caring and good intentions are not enough in parenting. In fact, they are often the problem! Fern supports parents of teens and young adults who are going through difficult situations, including addiction recovery. She helps parents release guilt, end enabling and confidently prepare their children to thrive through life's challenges. Her articles are featured in Thrive Global, Medium, Motherly, The Teen Mentor, and Bergen County Moms.
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